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How to Stop Missing your Ex?

How to stop missing your ex

When you just broke up with someone, you may feel like life will never be the same again. After going through all the stages of sadness and weary of anger, there is only one sense left. Longing and the knowledge of missing him. You can't help yourself and that's natural. Eventually, you invested time, effort and love into this connection and now this important person is gone and you will miss him a lot.

    Here are 16 ways to help you overcome this problem. By the time you realize it, things will change and you will be ready to love again. But in the meantime, let's see what we can do about you losing your ex.

    1. Take responsibility for your actions rather than blaming yourself.

    Breaking up can be very detrimental to your self-esteem. Because you start asking yourself questions and blaming yourself in all the wrong places.

    What I want you to remember is that the end of a relationship is usually the result of both spouses making mistakes and contributing to the breakup in some way.

    2. Think about why you miss him.

    It's not "I miss you", it's "I miss you", not the reason. What would you like to have? It may surprise you, but you won't miss him as much as what he did for you, the way he made you feel, or the attention he gave you.

    It is important to objectively evaluate your feelings and determine whether you are missing the company and the habit, or if you really miss your ex as a person and partner. Yes, there is a difference and you will recognize it by heart.

    3. Allow it to be felt.

    Don't confuse "strength" with hiding emotions. If you don't let everything feel, you'll find it difficult to digest the situation and overcome it. I know it hurts and I do my best to avoid it, but I can't avoid the bitterness. The faster you go through the process of mourning, the sooner you will stop missing him.

    4. Take your time.

    I understand that you are in great pain right now and I want to end this situation as soon as possible. But if the rolling of your little feet and all your heart didn't work when you were five, it won't work now. You have to drive the storm away and let things unfold organically.

    We are impatient beings, and being forced to learn patience through suffering is a terrible burden, but there is no way to avoid it. If you skip this part, you won't be able to draw meaningful conclusions or develop as a human being, right?

    5. Write down your thoughts and feelings.

    Expressing an emotion or feeling is the most effective way to overcome it and not become obsessed with it. Just leave it alone. Then you will feel a great sense of relief. However, please do not show up at his house, contact him or send an email expressing his love.

    6. Make the most of your time

    The less time you have to think about him, the less you will miss him. We can fool ourselves into believing that we miss someone or that we still love our ex simply because we are lonely, bored, or because we have too much free time and strong anger at his decision to change jobs.

    7. Never miss a prize.

    This is a great opportunity to invest time and focus while pursuing your goals. Invest your energy in long-term goals like getting promoted at work, going back to school for another degree, taking a round-the-world vacation, or embarking on a personal development journey.

    8. The use of the word "ex" is prohibited.

    It's even worse because when you and your former friend were in the same circle of friends, you'll have a lot of shared connections to keep referring to your ex. It's like finding new wounds over and over again.

    9. Put yourself first.

    When was the last time you thought of yourself first? It was all about him, about compromising, seeing him in the hallway when you were together. It's still about him, even though you're no longer with him, because you spend all your time thinking and missing him.

    10. Exercising at the gym

    This isn't about getting "revenge bodies" even if Khloe Kardashian makes you believe it. Physical exercise is beneficial because it keeps you active, reduces stress, calms anxiety, and keeps your mind focused. It's good for you, and if you finish off with a bouncy, slick body that makes your ex look twice and curses himself for letting you go, that's just a bonus!

    11. Take a step back.

    This is for both him and you. Every partnership needs some breathing space. It's clear that something isn't working, especially when the separation happens in situations like this, and they both need time to get some clarity.

    It suggests you take a step back and try to be mature about it, at the same time giving him some space. This isn't about "punishing" him for refusing to see or say who can hold his breath the longest. It's about your mental health and the relationship with that person, as well as the long-term viability of the relationship.

    12. Travel to new places.

    Travelling is sometimes the best thing to do. You are not running away. You just take up some room. Travel to new places, see new sights, and try new things. Getting away from your everyday environment can be a great way to reset your system. With so much to see, who has time to miss that loser battle?

    13. Don't constantly get notifications.

    This is something you should be aware of, but it seems you can't do it yourself. Is that correct? If your ex is watching you at the bedside table, the refrigerator and your phone screensaver, you won't stop missing him.

    14. Bring in new people.

    It is said that the best way to overcome someone is to go down under them. It's a load of garbage. Thoughtless casual sex won't heal a shattered mind. It's time to meet new people. In other words, meeting other people and welcoming new faces into your life. Meeting new people, hearing new stories, and spending time with other people can turn your life around a bit and open up your life to new and better opportunities, even if it's not a soulmate or romantic relationship at all. It will show you that your life does not end simply because he is no longer in it.

    15. Consult with a counselor

    Counseling can be a fantastic resource to help you deal with your emotions in a healthy way, especially if you are going through a difficult time or if a breakup is still vivid. You may have been so caught up in your thoughts lately that your perspective may be distorted.

    16. Strive to reconcile.

    At the end of the day, the relationship may not eventually be ruined. After going through the rejection phase of the grieving process, you should be able to figure out what the problem is.

    But what if you consider that and realize that your differences are not insurmountable and that you are truly the perfect pair? Periods of isolation can sometimes help you see things more clearly and see things in perspective. Things that once seemed big can now look small. In such cases, reuniting with your ex may be the only way to avoid losing your ex.


    As you can see, a breakup is painful, but it's not the end of the world, and the day is coming when the mourning for the ex-boyfriend will cease. All you have to do is change your perspective and be more involved in rehabilitation. Rolling around doesn't make you feel better, so go for it.

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    Jennifer Holloway

    Jennifer Holloway

    Jennifer Holloway lives in Denton, TX with her husband Rob. She has two adorable, rambunctious daughters and a husband who is patient, sweet and understanding. She’s also an avid reader who loves to write about the characters that inhabit her imagination. Holloway loves to spend time in the outdoors, with her family and friends, or reading. She has a degree in English with a minor in Philosophy from the University of North Texas.

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